Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Am I Old Fashioned...???

...if I don't understand why any woman would feel the need to prove herself as good as a man?   Am I old fashioned if I feel like being a woman is a ton better than being a man?  Why would I want to be logical anyway?  I rather like looking on the world with my emotional mind set. Can you imagine how harsh the world would be if women and men were all logical?  ...and how boring!!

(I mean, honestly, what would we do without all the drama!?!  Gotta love the drama!)  

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Making women equal with men will do two things. 

First, it will destroy your relationship with your husband and, eventually, with your children.  Not to mention you will have trained your daughters to follow suit and prove to the world that they, too, are better than, or at least equal with, their husbands.  (Which would be setting them up to fail.)

Second, (like all of that isn't enough) it cheapens the role of the woman.  Ladies are not treated like ladies anymore.  Men are afraid that they'll be yelled at for being a gentleman because it's demeaning to women.

Men don't hold their tongues anymore in front of ladies, because these so-called "ladies" use worse language and speak of vile things just to prove that they are...what?  Manly?  Strong?  Intelligent?  I must be old fashioned, because I can't figure out why in the world any woman would want to act like, think like or look like a all.

Great Story...
 I love the story of the gentleman who opened a door for a woman he didn't know.   The woman became angry at his gesture and began to tell him in a very loud, rude way that she was not weak and she most certainly did NOT need his help opening the door.  The man replied in a strong, yet polite way, "Ma'am, I didn't open that door for you because you are a lady.  I opened that door for you because *I* am a gentleman!" And that he was - a true gentleman.  And she?  A dis-graceful, un-thankful Moron!  (just say'n...)

I do my best to make my daughters proud of being girls.  I want them to enjoy it.  They should be as feminine as they can possibly be.  Not mousey and silly.  Not flirty half-whits, but lady like, feminine, gentle, caring, loving, wise, decisive and submissive all at the same time.

I want them to know how to make wise, thoughtful decisions for themselves, and yet, know when, how, and to whom they should be submissive.  When it's time to laugh, they should most certainly know how to have fun and make the best of the life that they have been given. 

We were created to be our husband's help meets.  We were not told to go and be the same as them.  Nor were we told to go and make them look like idiots so that we can look better, smarter, or more intellegent.  In fact, we can make our husbands look better by submitting and honoring them, and when it's all said and done *WE* end up looking better too.  Our husbands will depend on us more, trust us better, and look forward to being with us more often when we are feminine, lady like and submissive.

In God's eyes we are equal to our husbands.  We are just as important as they are.  But we have a much different role.  A role I happen to love.  I wouldn't trade my place as wife and stay-at-home mama for the world!  I guess I'm just old fashioned.  :)

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  1. I agree and thanks for posting this.

  2. Love this post! I like being old-fashioned too!

  3. I agree. I just read a book on this very subject. "The Way Home: Beyond Feminism, Back to Reality" by Mary Pride.

  4. WELL SAID. agree 100%. wish I could get certain young women to read your post...but...since they probably won't, I will 'copy and paste' onto my e-mails to them if I have your permission to do so, please? I'd also like to copy and paste portions of it onto my fb that allowed?

  5. Thank you, ladies, and I don't mind if you share this with other ladies. The goal is to encourage and inspire other women to become ladies...I say, GO for it!! =D

  6. Well said, Angela!

  7. It's interesting that I should run across this post.
    I myself believe the same way.
    I don't want to go out into a working world and "compete" with men. I also do not feel lead to be or believe in a career woman. But as I am going into my middle twenties and have not a man in my life--I do need to support myself.
    All that I have ever desired in life is to be a good wife and mother to many children.

    Thank you for being an encouragement to us "young-uns". Nice to see another lady out there that is happy to be a mother and wife.

  8. You know the divorce rate sky-rocketed when the women entered the working world...
    That has trickled down and left this generation selfish, immoral, and godless.

  9. *blush* you guys are too kind!

    I have a few ideas on women in the workplace...and ladies being ladies...and MEN being MEN for that matter, but I'll let my husaband cover those things. =) I don't have a problem with a lady working if she doesn't have children and can handle her premier God-given responsibilites at the same time! =D

  10. Wow well said! I agree and thank you for this post!

  11. I'm old-fashioned too! Sometimes I think I was born in the wrong era! :-) Thanks for sharing.

  12. I love this. There was a time in my life when I would've said that maybe you were 'old fashioned'. I just wasn't happy being home, raising my children (I am embarrassed to say), serving my hubby. God has opened my eyes. I have a very good friend who I love dearly, but saw her as somewhat 'lowering herself' by being VERY submissive to her hubby. I thought she was overboard. Now, I am becoming her. I was griping about a woman the other day that went out of her way to make a snide comment to her hubby and it disgusted me. My hubby said, "I can see you becoming so much like the 'overly submissive' friend"......thank you! I consider that a compliment!!!!! Great post!

  13. I like your post :) I hope it speaks to young ladies out there who are of a feminist mentality. I don't think I ever once thought, when going in to work, that I would do this to compete with men and prove myself as a woman that I, too, can do the job. My job is a career so-to-speak with a retirement and all, but I'm not out there to move up the corporate ladder and gain rank or recognition. I have to work because I have to support my family. I'd love to be home with my little girl more often but I thank the Lord for the schedule I have that allows Jaiden to be either with mom or with dad, no day care involved. If you have to work, there is a way to conduct yourself as a lady. Sure I can do the job as well if not better than some men, but that is nothing I would boast or brag of to everybody around me in hopes to gain anything. Let us be humble ladies in the work place if we must work :)

  14. Excellent post, Angela! I'm glad you said exactly what was on my mind! ;)

  15. I am old fashion too. thank you for posting this. Sometimes life can make you feel like your the only one who feels this way. guess I am not alone.

  16. Thank you for this post! How can I explain to my mother the meaning of "being submissive" in a way that she would better understand? I was raised with a mentality that women "do it better and look better doing it," and it's taken me a LONG time to soften and realize how negative that mentality actually is. She divorced when I was young because my father was like a dictator, and although I think that being strong got her through, I think she hardened too much and taught us girls to be the same. I love and trust my husband and am learning that submitting to him (and counseling with him) helps our relationship so much more, and I'm less inclined to compete with him in front of others to "prove" something ( worth?). How would you explain being submissive to my mother?

    1. That's a hard question! I would say the best thing for you to do is to pray for her, and to be the best example of a submissive wife in front of her. Pray that God will give you the words to say.

      1 Peter 3:15 - But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: