Is True Love Blind?

They say, "love is blind", but is it really?

In those first weeks of a dating relationship it may be.  You spend as much time together as you can.  You overlook the flaws, or the bad points because the good points out weigh the bad.  In fact, sometimes you don't see the bad points at all.  Not because there aren't any.  You just aren't seeing them because you're in "love".  This is the kind of love that's blind.  This is also NOT genuine love.  This love is short lived and won't last.

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Married life is grand and glorious for a grand total of 3 weeks...maybe.  And then it hits.  Life.  You should have known it was coming.  But you didn't.  You thought he was perfect.  He thought you were perfect.  You're left to wonder what happened and where things went wrong.  As Elizabeth Elliott said, they went wrong back in the garden of Eden.  You are both children of Adam.  Sinners.  What did you expect?
My husband is a preacher.  We've heard it said so many times:

•  "I just don't feel loved" 
• "I don't feel any love for him"
• "It just doesn't feel right any more."
• "We've grown apart"

There's 2 things wrong with each of these statements.

#1 ~ Love isn't a feeling.  True love is a decision to give yourself completely and totally for the good of the other person.  It's  doing right toward the other person when you don't feel like it.  When it's not easy.  When it's not deserved.

True love is not blind.  It's quite the opposite.  True love is knowing the sins and flaws of your husband better than anyone and turning a blind eye.  Loving him anyway.  Encouraging him because you know you're a sinner as well and in need of encouragement.  Forgiving him the way you, yourself would want to be forgiven.  And possibly encouraging, forgiving, and loving even though you know it won't be returned.  That's True Love.  This is the love Jesus had for us when He died on the cross. 

#2 ~ All of these statements revolve around the wrong person.  Who are you in this thing for?  Is it about you, or your husband?  I understand that we all need to feel loved, but True Love is not about you.  It's about the other person. True love is a willingness to give up a few things to make the other person happy and then you'll find that you are a happier person and more fulfilled in your role as wife.

True love is not about you.  True love is not about receiving, but giving.  It's doing.  Love is a decision.  An action.  Hard work.  

True love is not a feeling.  It's not something that we can find or fall into.  It's something that must be worked at, and built up every day.  True love is not blind.  It just knows how to turn a blind eye to the things that are not that important in the long run, focuses on the good rather than the flaws, and is determined to raise the object of affection to a higher position than ever before.

  TRUE LOVE:  Romans 5:8  But God commendeth His love toward us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

 

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