Protect Your Children. Obey Their Father.

Children understand early that dad is {or should be} in charge of the family.  They watch how you, as their mother, handle being told what to do.  Don't be surprised one day when your daughter treats her husband as you have treated her daddy.

So many times the father will wisely warn against his children wanting to spend time with this person or that.  He doesn't want his children going here or doing that with a certain person or group of persons.  The mother, however, feels sorry for her children because they feel that they are being denied fun.

Mom wants them to have great memories of their younger years - especially if she feels she missed out during hers.  She talks her husband into allowing it, or worse, allows her children to do what they want behind dad's back.   ~ It's a bad deal and a fantastic way to set your kids up for failure. ~  You are teaching them, by example, to be rebellious and go against their God given authority.

I've known mothers that sincerely thought their children would love them more for letting them do certain things that their husband and father disapproved of.  They thought it would show the kids they were fun-loving and cool.

My son, (or daughter) give me thine heart and let thine eyes observe my ways.  ~ Proverbs 23:26

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One mother, in particular, said to me, "she isn't going to do anything.  He {referring to her husband} just worries too much."  I honestly think this mother was under the impression that if she allowed her daughter to do most of what she wanted, the daughter would think twice when the mother finally decided to say "no".  After all, she did usually say, "yes", so surely  she would stop and consider why mom said "no" to this particular activity when she had so eagerly said "yes" to all of the others.  In this particular situation, the mother was very disappointed, and to this day is blaming everyone but herself for the way her child has turned out.   Mother, if you didn't value your husband's opinion, why should your child(ren) value yours?

My children are far too important to me.  I'm not the perfect wife and mother.  I don't always agree with him.  But for the sake of my children, I always back him up.

I have told them I don't understand the "why" of it all, but then I explained that we don't always need to know the "why", we simply need to trust that God is God and He has given us our daddy to protect us. 

Your husband is a man and he understands things in a way that his children, and yes, even you, his wife, does not.  He's not as emotional.  Neither is he worried about the fact that your child may have a bad day/attitude as a result of his decision.  He simply understands that something or someone at the activity could be harmful or simply not in his child's best interest.  Dad says no, because he's looking out for the welfare of his family.

You may not understand the "why" behind the "no", but you can teach your child to be happy anyway by being happy anyway.  You may feel sorry for your child because they are missing out on something - don't let your child know this.  Be thankful that they are home, safe and sound.  Know that, in the long run, you are teaching your child to love, obey and be respectful by being these things yourself.

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